Recently, Marie Kondo has taken the world by storm! Her ability to tidy any living space has intrigued people across the world, and I am no different. Many people don’t know this, but I love organizing and cleaning. I find it to be therapeutic and fun. But, I always felt like I still had so much clutter. It was like I cleaned, but I didn’t? Then I came across Marie Kondo’s show on Netflix. It was interesting, and I loved seeing the before and after of people’s homes. Luckily, Libby had her book on file and I borrowed it.
“The act of cluttering is really an instinctive reflex that draws our attention away from the heart of an issue.”
I obviously knew the basis surrounding Kondo’s work, but I wasn’t entirely sure of the entire essence behind it. If I’m being honest, I thought it was a little crazy at first. I mean, talking to your belongings? Who does that? But, like everything, there’s a method to the madness and I was ready and willing to figure it out.
Marie Kondo’s Book
While reading the book I felt like I was having an actual conversation with Kondo and she was right by my side while I went through the process. She uses the book to teach about the science behind tidying up and how she actually got into it. Kondo explained how it was always her thing to organize and clean but it took her a while and tons of reading and practices to be the guru she is today.
She compiled a list of tips, success stories, and logic behind her methods.
I especially loved how Kondo correlated tidying up to everyday life and how it can change our lives for the better.
What I wanted Out of the Process
“Visualize your destination.”
Something I always talk about is visualizing your highest self and who you would be if you were actually happy. After doing that, start to behave as if you are already that person and then you will actually be that person. I didn’t know how much your home related to this process.
It pleasantly surprised me that Kondo included this in her teachings.
In the book, Kondo mentions one of her clients and how she asked her who she is when she’s happy. The response she gave was not prevalent in her home, but by the end of the process, she had become that person she so vividly described in the beginning.
My Highest Self
For me, it took a minute to answer this and be honest with myself. I’ve always had a huge boyish side to me, but I realized this isn’t who I am in my entirety. Yes, I love that side of me and it’s super important, but who I truly am, is so much more.
I’m a woman who enjoys the feminine wonders of life. I love make-up and vintage movies. Girly clothes and vibrant aesthetics. But, I also love curling up with a good book near a fireplace and taking care of myself. I love blasting peppermint essential oils in my diffuser while working on my blog. Skincare and baths bring me happiness. But so do action movies and stunning sports cars.
“Everyone needs a sanctuary.”
I wanted my space to reflect organization, serenity, and feminine beauty. But, my space at the time, was anything but.
All my clutter and possessions that didn’t bring me joy, made me hide those parts of me that inspire my craft.
“Your house in order is the magic that creates a vibrant and happy life.”
Kondo suggests we work in categories, first starting with our clothes. Which is exactly what I did.
I had tons of clothes, in luggages, closets, drawers. It was everywhere! I found clothes in different rooms of the house, other people’s closets. And I was stunned at the fact that I didn’t even wear any of them. After I gathered them up, I went through the process of finding the ones that bring joy into my life and eliminating the ones that don’t while still appreciating them for providing me with warmth when I needed it.
When I tell you, I had so many clothes from middle school, I HAD SO MANY CLOTHES FROM MIDDLE SCHOOL.
Clothes that I hadn’t worn, seen, or even remembered. I had outgrown probably ninety percent of my clothes. And it was such an awakening. I’m not one to spend a ton of money on clothes, hell all of my money goes to books and food. But I realized just how badly my habit of not buying clothes was.
“But when we really delve into the reasons for why we can’t let something go, there are only two: an attachment to the past or a fear for the future.”
I had sweats from gym class that had a bunch of holes in them and were wayyy too small to fit my body, There were shirts with so many stains on them I couldn’t even differentiate what caused them. White clothes were now a nasty yellow color. And to make matters worse? None of it was my style.
But I was hoarding them because I wanted to hold on to my previous life. I thought that by keeping a shirt I wore to dress down that one day in seventh grade, I’d remember all the things I did. But that wasn’t the case. I was unnecessarily attached to my past.
“It is not our memories but the person we have become because of those past experiences that we should treasure.”
“No matter how wonderful things used to be, we cannot live in the past. The joy and excitement we feel here and now are more important.”
“The process of assessing how you feel about the things you own, identifying those that have fulfilled their purpose, expressing your gratitude, and bidding them farewell, is really about examining your inner self, a rite of passage to a new life.”
By the end of the process, all of the clothes I owned were in a box, ready to be sent off. I was left with only ten percent of what I started with. Most of it, from Fashion Nova which I had recently bought. I went from bulging closets and drawers to a spacious closet and only two drawers.
“Once you learn to choose your belongings properly, you will be left only with the amount that fits perfectly in the space you currently own.”
It made me so happy. I could physically feel the stress leaving my body. You don’t really know how much stress clothes cause you until you start to get rid of them.
“In essence, tidying ought to be the act of restoring balance among people, their possessions, and the house they live in.”
It’s made me excited to buy clothes because now I know what I want and I actually have the space for it.
“People who lack confidence in their judgement lack confidence in themselves.”
I obviously don’t have photos because 1. I forgot to take pictures and 2. this triumph should be my own. Going through this process was such a personal and uplifting experience that I feel like if I share photos, it’d take away from the magic it made me feel.
Decluttering my clothes inspired me so much that I even changed the entire layout of my room.
How The Marie Kondo Method Affected Me
“Your real life begins after putting your house in order”
I was now motivated to read more, write more, and even change my daily routine. For the first time, in a really long time, I feel in tune with myself, what I want, and who I will become.
“The key is to make the change so sudden that you experience a complete change of heart.”
My days are no longer wasted on my bed feeling terrible about myself and laziness. Instead, I wake up earlier, get more done throughout the day and I’m much more positive about the things surrounding me and occurring.
My space makes me feel comfortable and at home. I have access to everything I need. And I no longer put things off because I’m too lazy to reach for them. I no longer have to dig through mountains and mountains of clothes before I find the one t-shirt I wanted to wear. Sweat used to drip down my face so much while looking for clothes because I’d have to move things around, but now, it’s all within eye view.
“By eliminating excess visual information that doesn’t inspire joy, you can make your space much more peaceful and comfortable.”
“Clutter is caused by a failure to return things to where they belong. Therefore, storage should reduce the effort needed to put things away, not the effort needed to get them out.”
Putting my clothes in order gave me the ability to recognize the things that were mentally challenging me in life. I realized that my clutter made me neglect my issues which made them grow deeper. Because the more you hide behind your mess, the bigger the mess becomes. I transferred my stress from other things into my environment because I didn’t want to deal with them. But, since, I’ve been able to look within myself and work towards fixing them. I’ve even found time to develop new hobbies such as bullet journaling that help me relax and be in tune with my happiness.
“You have no choice but to examine your inner state. You can see any issues you have been avoiding and are forced to deal with them.”
“Life becomes much easier once you know that things will still work out even if you are lacking something.”
I obviously haven’t gotten to the other categories, but I’m so excited to see what comes next. I can already tell it’ll be a smoother transition and process because I already went through the most excruciating part. I’ve gotten so good at understanding what brings me joy that I’ve actually connected more with my own mind and I now understand it better.
“The question of what you want to own is actually the question of how you want to live your life.”
Since tidying up, I’ve developed a deeper relationship with myself by taking care of the exterior things causing me to break down. If you haven’t already, I highly encourage all of you to pick up Kondo’s book, watch her Netflix show, and try to give her methods a try.
The process isn’t for everyone, but, I do believe that if you give it a try, it’ll benefit you in some way or another.
Kondo has inspired me so much and has taught me how to bring joy into my life by simply surrounding myself with those things that excite me. I hope that by reading this post, you’re inspired to check out her methods for yourself.
Until next time,
Stay Vibrant & Embrace The Gray