How many times have you struggled to make a decision? Is it because there are too many options? Not enough options? Or because you simply don’t understand what you’re choosing? Trust me, we’ve all been there. I can’t even begin to explain how much stress I used to accumulate because I couldn’t decide between A and B. For example, my first semester of college I would walk into the cafeteria and spend huge chunks of time trying to figure out what to eat. I’d walk the entirety of the cafeteria weighing all my options a million times before deciding it best to just get the same thing I did before.
All the running around and overthinking was obviously unnecessary. But I did it because I’m an indecisive person. And I know that there are so many people out there who are the same way. However, there’s a way to overcome that. And I’m going to teach you exactly how to beat this.
Make A List of All Your Options & Then Make More Lists
Obviously we all know that there are millions of possibilities with everything in life. Whether it’s deciding what to eat, where to move, a career path, there are always tons of options.
Therefore, make a list of every single possibility you can think of. And once you do that, make a pros and cons list for each option.
For example, say I’m trying to look for a change of scenery and that requires me to move to a different city. I’ll first make a list of cities I’m interested in:
Then, once that’s done, I’ll make a separate list for each of those cities for why they would be a good choice and why they would be a bad choice.
So it’ll probably look something like this:
Pros- good weather, good food, diversity
Cons- too hot, summer all year round, earthquakes
And so on and so forth.
Set A Deadline
“Take all the time you need, don’t worry.”
Taking more time doesn’t necessarily result in a better outcome.
Set a day for you to finalize your decision. It can be within minutes, hours, days, weeks, or months. But, just set a deadline.
And this way you won’t push the decision aside.
Limit Your Options
Now that you have options A through Z and have set up a deadline, it’s time to limit your options. The best way to do this is by deciding what exactly you want. And doing so requires you to be transparent with yourself.
The reason it’s so hard to make decisions is because you’re not being transparent with yourself. And what I mean by this is that you’re not being completely honest with yourself.
You know exactly which option you want to choose, you just don’t want to admit to it out of fear.
The trick to overcoming this is accepting the fact that it’s okay to want something. Whether you want more, less, or the same thing, it’s completely okay.
The first thing that comes to your mind when you’re faced with making a choice is your decision. No if, ands, or buts. You wouldn’t have thought of it first if it wasn’t what you wanted.
Understand That There Is No Right Or Wrong Decision
The only way for a decision to be wrong is if you decide that it was wrong. Every decision you make in your life is going to lead you somewhere. Whether it’s the path you wanted or a completely different path, that decision you made is going to lead you somewhere. And that somewhere is going to teach you a valuable lesson. So, in reality, it’s a win-win no matter what.
All you have to do is adapt your mentality into believing this:
“Every decision I make is the right decision and is going to lead me down a path that is going to help me grow and learn.”
Don’t Look Back
Once your decision is made, do not think about it again.
This is why people are so indecisive because once they make their decision, they think about it some more.
Stop doing this. You don’t need the stress or confusion.
So, make your decision, take action, and move on.
Developing good decision making skills takes time and effort. But, in the end, you’ll save yourself so much time because you’ll no longer be in a constant state of “I don’t know”. It’ll also boost your mood and focus because you won’t feel stress, frustration, or any overwhelming feelings.
But, practice makes perfect. The more you practice decision making, the better you will get.
Maybe you can start off small and build your way up. My first small step was deciding what to eat every day. Then I moved on to what to wear. And so on and so forth.
So give it a try!!
Until next time,
Stay Vibrant & Embrace The Gray